đ«Š Getting Laid Abroad: The Unfiltered Guide for Expats
TLDR
- Sexual health is vital: Regular sex boosts testosterone, focus, and longevity.
- The Expat Advantage: Being a âforeignerâ often boosts your status in Latin America and Asia.
- Two Paths: You can choose between ânaturalâ dating (offline/online) or paid sex.
- Optimize Your Location: Pick countries where you find the locals attractive and they find you high-status.
- The Condo Strategy: Transitioning to your place quickly is the most efficient way to close.
Today I want to tackle the topic of getting laid abroad, a bit of a departure from the usual array of Western-collapse related shenanigans, but something I feel is important nonetheless. Especially as a man, itâs of paramount importance you have a reliable and frequent source of sex.
It benefits your testosterone, self-esteem, happiness, focus, longevity, physical health and so on. Scientific studies on sex and health back this up; it isnât just about fun, itâs about survival.
Moving to another country comes with a lot of advantages, but often also disadvantages, such as a language barrier, maybe culture shock, and a disturbance in your previously rigid routines. Perhaps you were used to banging girls from your country, but are a bit wary of how your skills will translate into wherever youâre going?
You being a stranger in a strange land could certainly hinder your chances of getting laid (especially if you donât speak the local language), but in most cases it will greatly increase them, because you are seen as a higher status man, such as in low-income nations like Vietnam, Colombia and the Philippines.
This article is aimed primarily at men, because, letâs face it, a woman will never have issues getting laid. In these regions, dating abroad becomes a game played on âEasy Modeâ due to your relative wealth and exotic appeal.
đ„ Getting Laid Abroad: The Core Philosophy
Getting laid abroad (and being happy about it) comes down to two things: how attracted you are to the locals, and how attracted they are to you. If both of these factors are âvery attractedâ, then you usually shouldnât have an issue.
Now, where can you find attractive locals? This depends nearly completely on you, and Iâve already covered which country has the most beautiful women in the world:
- Colombia (High passion, great bodies)
- Mexico (Accessible and diverse)
- Israel (Strong, striking features)
- Japan (Elegant and feminine)
- Vietnam (Traditional and petite)
- The Philippines (Westernized and friendly)
Of course, Iâm biased about this, but youâd have to look far and wide to find a man who isnât attracted to any of these nationalities. So if you want to move somewhere with hot women, any of these countries would do, depending on your tastes.
That being said, not all of these countries are recommended to move to, based on objective facts such as economic growth, cost of living, safety, and so forth.
đ The Expat Status Dynamics
| Feature | High-Income Nation (e.g., Japan) | Low-Income Nation (e.g., Philippines) |
| Status Boost | Moderate | Extreme |
| Language Barrier | High | Low (often English-speaking) |
| Cost of Dating | Expensive | Very Cheap |
| Closing Speed | Slower | Very Fast |
Itâs a bit of a trade-off really, and like I said in your parameters for moving abroad, youâll have to decide for yourself how important having attractive women (and the ability to sleep with them) in your country of destination is.
To me, it was pretty important, so I included it as a primary parameter. Once youâve decided on a country where the women are hot to you, and where you are pretty sure you can get laid, which options are there?
đ Options for Sex Abroad
There are, broadly speaking, two options to get laid abroad:
- âNaturalâ sex: which basically means relatively free hook-ups, such as a one-night-stand, or a girlfriend, and everything in between.
- Paid sex: also known as prostitution.
Of course, the lines between these options can blur, and will probably increasingly do so as the years go by, with things like sugar dating, tuition girls, or just providing for your girlfriend(s).
This grey area isnât usually considered ârealâ prostitution, but if you were to suddenly stop providing the girl(s) in these scenarios with money and/or support, the sex would stop ⊠so frankly I donât see a difference.
Online dating as expat users often find that many ânormalâ profiles are actually looking for support, so keep your eyes open.
Getting laid abroad through prostitution is relatively simple: you find a suitable woman, hash out the details, fuck her, pay her, and move on with your day. Convenient, often surprisingly cheap in Latin American and Asian countries, but it does come with downsides.
I wonât be going into more details on this here, weâll focus on the ânaturalâ ways to get laid abroad. Iâve already written a whole article about the various forms of sex tourism in Asia, so check that out if thatâs your thing.
đ¶ How can you get laid abroad without paying for it?
Once again, there are roughly two major categories of how you can get laid abroad, dealing with the way of meeting girls:
Offline
Meeting girls offline is the traditional way, and there are basically no limits here. You can meet girls everywhere, in malls, coffee shops, the gym, and so on. If you are moving to the Philippines, for example, youâll find the locals are incredibly social and open to direct approaches.
You strike up a conversation, see if you hit it off and if sheâs into you, set up an actual date, get her contact information, and you move on with your day.
The Offline Advantage Checklist:
- Build Trust: They see you and know you are real.
- Instant Dates: No messing around with picking a time and place, thus no flaking.
- High Conversion: Easier to get them back to your place because they feel like they already know you.
- No Filters: You see the girls and know theyâre hot, which means you can avoid the dreaded SIFs (Standard Internet Fats).
- Special Feeling: It makes her feel special, which increases attraction compared to the âcattle marketâ of apps.
However, it does require confidence and game. If youâre an attractive, easy-going guy who knows what heâs doing, offline dating can work wonders. If not ⊠you can always go online.
Online
This basically comes down to setting up a profile on dating sites and apps, and/or social media, and looking for attractive girls that way. You send them a DM, chat to them for a while, and then set up a date, where youâll proceed to woo her and convince her to fuck you. In my experience moving to Thailand, the volume of women online is staggering.
The Online Benefit Checklist:
- Easiest Way: Do it wherever and whenever.
- Lower Barrier: Requires less confidence than offline dating; youâve got screens as walls.
- Wider Net: Find girls youâd never meet in real life due to location or lifestyle.
- 24/7 Engine: This is an always ongoing option.
- Sheer Volume: Thousands of suitable women in any decent-sized city.
- Explicit Intent: Find girls who are just looking for sex and arenât coy about it.
Now, there are several disadvantages as well. Number one is that girls are inundated with messages online from hordes of thirsty men wanting to get into their pants. Itâs much harder to stand out, especially compared to offline dating. Having a good profile and decent pictures (and being attractive to the women you want) is very important.
Besides that, youâll also have to deal with a lot of time-wasting, gold-diggers, and girls who will never fuck you or meet up with you, but who keep leading you on. Always consider digital privacy for expats when sharing personal details.
đ© The actual date
Once youâve convinced a girl to go out with you (by meeting her online or offline), youâre one step closer to sex. For the actual date, I suggest never going for things like dinner or seeing a movie.
Itâs not that these things donât work, because they do, but they are time-consuming, cost money, and put you more into the âpotential boyfriendâ category. Dating tips in foreign country settings usually revolve around one rule: Keep it simple.
If thatâs what you are after, go for it, but if you just want sex, a short (1 hour max) date in a coffee shop or bar is much better. Talk to the girl, build up the sexual tension, and then either escalate to sex right away (by going to your condo), or schedule another date at your place, where youâll have sex.
This approach is what Iâve used to pretty great success, but honestly itâs a bit boring and frankly, not even necessary.
My current method is just talking to girls online through various apps and sites, chatting for a few days, and then inviting them over to my condo, where sex usually occurs.
This is very convenient for me, and itâs great for the girls too, because they get to spend some time in a nice condo and have some fun without anyone knowing.
đĄïž Safety and Expat Relationships
When you are dating abroad, you have to be smarter than the average tourist. If things go south, you need an emergency exit plan. Some women may use the local legal system or social pressure against expats if they feel slighted.
â ïž Expat Safety Rules
- Vetting: Check her social media or âmutualsâ if possible.
- Discretion: Donât show her your assets abroad or bank balances early on.
- Residency: Donât let a bad breakup jeopardize your getting permanent residence goals.
- Etiquette: Understand dating and relationships abroad etiquette so you donât accidentally promise marriage.
If you are a father, the stakes are even higher. Understanding what is an expat father means realizing that your âadventuresâ shouldnât compromise your familyâs residency or safety. You must balance your personal desires with the need to how to move your family abroad successfully.
đ Is getting laid abroad easy?
It depends who you are, where you go to, and how you look, but if youâre a white man moving to Latin America or Asia, chances are getting laid abroad is pretty damn easy, especially compared to your home country.
Whether you talk to girls online or offline, getting them out on a date usually isnât that difficult, and once you can convince them to come to your condo (immediately, or as a second date), sex will easily occur in most cases.
Whether you are moving to Colombia or seeking nurturing relationships outside the western norms, the key is to set up a system that works for you. In summation: if getting laid abroad is important to you, pick a country where the women are hot (to you) and where you can see yourself having success, and move there.
It takes some time to set up a system that works for you, but once youâve got it streamlined, you can experience a variety and plethora of sexual adventures you may not have ever thought possible back home.
Read more: 6 benefits of moving abroad
